Welcome to From Insults to Respect.
Those who experience what is sometimes referred to as a nervous breakdown can receive a great many insults as their behavior begins to annoy. The Rolling Stones’s hit “19th Nervous Breakdown” insightfully explores this issue.
The lyrics begin,
You’re the kind of person you meet at certain dismal, dull affairs
Center of a crowd, talking much too loud, running up and down the stairs
Well, it seems to me that you have seen too much in too few years
And though you’ve tried you just can’t hide your eyes are edged with tearsYou better stop, look around
Here it comes, here it comes, here it comes, here it comes
Here comes your nineteenth nervous breakdown
The song tells us about someone who frequently, nineteen times so far, experiences what the vocalist, Mick Jagger, refers to as a nervous breakdown. I get the sense the “talking way too loud” is annoying. Mick hazards a guess in this first stanza as to what’s causing these breakdowns–seeing too much in too few years. The character in this tale is overwhelmed.
Mick, in the next verse, provides some additional theorizing.
When you were a child you were treated kind but you were never brought up right
You were always spoiled with a thousand toys but still you cried all night
Your mother who neglected you owes a million dollars tax
And your father’s still perfecting ways of making sealing wax
Early childhood experiences, such as being spoiled, a lack of motherly attention, and family financial difficulties can be significant stresses leading to a variety of emotional concerns. Supporting this line of thinking is an abundance of research evidence (see HERE, HERE, and HERE).
Meanwhile, the pharmaceutical industry, along with psychiatrists who sold out to it, promotes the theory that these emotional concerns are due to a chemical imbalance. The right pill prescription, they claim, is the first line of treatment.
Because doctors in the physical health arena have become so respected because of many amazingly successful treatments dealing with physical health problems, doctors in the mental health arena find it easy to convince their patients to take a variety of pills. This financially rewording model continues despite years of negative research findings (see HERE). Hans S. Schroder, clinician and researcher at the Harvard Department of Psychiatry along with his colleagues, recently wrote:
“Our findings are in line with accumulating evidence that some biogenetic beliefs, like the chemical imbalance belief, are linked with poorer expectations for improvement, especially among those with the most troubling symptoms.”
As the Rolling Stones song continues, it begins to express the exasperation that can occur when trying to help someone going through emotionally challenging experiences:
Oh, who’s to blame
That girl’s just insane
Well, nothing I do don’t seem to work
It only seems to make the matters worse
Oh, pleaseYou were still in school when you had that fool who really messed your mind
And after that you turned your back on treating people kind
On our first trip I tried so hard to rearrange your mind
But after awhile I realized you were disarranging mine
It’s understandable how people can lose their patience with someone viewed as insane. That’s one of the reasons some people are super quick to encourage the quick fix of psychiatric drugs. However, in another hit by the Rolling Stones, “Mother’s Little Helper,” Mick doesn’t seem too comfortable with this. The song’s lyrics deal with the popularity of prescribed drugs and the potential hazards of overdose or addiction. The early part of the song tells us,
What a drag it is getting old,
“Kids are different today”
I hear every mother say
Mother needs something today
To calm her down
And though she’s not really ill
There’s a little yellow pillShe goes running for the shelter
Of her mother’s little helper
And it helps her on her way
Gets her through her busy day
We are indeed getting older, and having anxiety about this is a common useful experience, not an illness. Anxiety, when handled skillfully, motivates us to come to mature understandings about how we can live a life worth living (see HERE for a fuller understanding regarding the nature of anxiety). But when a mother goes to a doctor and expresses concerns about her anxiety, there’s an excellent chance she will have her expressed concerns translated into mental disorder language and she will leave the office with a drug prescription. That’s how the doctors make their money. How does this sit with Mick?
“
Things are different today”
I hear every mother say
Cooking fresh food for her husband’s just a drag
So she buys an instant cake
And she burns a frozen steakAnd goes running for the shelter
Of her mother’s little helper
And two help her on her way
Get her through her busy day“Doctor, please
Some more of these”
Outside the door
She took four more
What a drag it is getting old
Life has its periods of frustration. If you were brought up in a home where feeling down was viewed as something is wrong with you, it’s easy to move from that view to pathologizing such experiences. The pharmaceutical industry promotes this way of thinking with ads that depict someone feeling down, and then, following a prescription for a pill, the sun is now shining, and everyone is all smiles. There is a serious downside that comes with this approach, as the song’s next lines begin to bring into focus.
“Men just aren’t the same today”
I hear every mother say
“They just don’t appreciate that you get tired”
They’re so hard to satisfy
You can tranquilize your mindSo go running for the shelter
Of a mother’s little helper
And four help you through the night
Help to minimize your plight“Doctor, please
Some more of these”
Outside the door
She took four more
What a drag it is getting old
Notice that two pills are no longer sufficient for these mothers. The process of addiction is underway. In the scientific literature, this process is called “down regulation” or “tolerance.” To understand this process, let’s take the example of tobacco smokers. We see evidence of tolerance to tobacco in studies that indicate fewer responses than do non-smokers to the same amount of nicotine (Perkins et al. 2001b). More specifically, we see a reduction on measures of subjective stimulation that may be viewed as pleasurable, such as arousal, vigor, and a subjective experience often referred to as “head rush” or “buzz.”
The relief that smokers feel each time they give themselves another dose of nicotine creates the powerful illusion that cigarettes help them to deal with stress. Thus, in a study published in the American Psychologist, researchers found the following: Smokers often report that cigarettes help relieve feelings of stress. However, the stress levels of adult smokers are slightly higher than those of nonsmokers. Moreover, adolescent smokers report increasing levels of stress as they develop regular patterns of smoking. For those who quit the smoking habit their stress levels are reduced. Far from acting as an aid for mood control, nicotine dependency exacerbates stress. This is confirmed in the daily mood patterns described by smokers, with above average levels of stress during smoking and worsening moods between cigarettes. Thus, the apparent relaxant effect of smoking only reflects the reversal of the tension and irritability that develop during nicotine depletion occurring between nonsmoking intervals.
This is largely the reason why people become addicted to other substances, such as alcohol, caffeine, illegal drugs, and the drugs that psychiatrists prescribe. They all have the potential of creating for addicted people the illusion that they are functioning better than they did before they started consuming the addictive drug. During the interval when they do not take the drug they begin to experience an uncomfortable withdrawal reaction. They don’t attribute the discomfort to a withdrawal reaction, but instead, to falsely believing it is due to the return of how they would feel if they had never taken the drug.
Another part of the addiction process is that the addictive substance often is used as part of a ceremony creating a very pleasant experience. Here’s what that process is like.
Many people, when they have more than a small dose of the drug, they begin to feel sick. This keeps their intake of the drug at moderate levels. Even at these moderate levels, regular consuming of the drug tends to increase moderately the risk of negative health consequences. Nevertheless, once tolerance has been established the relief that comes from the easing of the negative withdrawal effects each time they take the drug is perceived as pleasant. Moreover, there is pleasantness from the rest of the ceremony that often involves marking the
end of the work day, putting on music they love, and joining together with friends in a pleasant shared experience. In this way, people end up feeling the resulting pleasant feelings that come with this combination–the easing of the drug withdrawal process and the ceremony– is worth the minor risk of negative health consequences from the moderate use of the drug or drugs.
Although this can be an acceptable decision for many, for others, hoping they can remain moderate users of one or more of these types of drugs is disastrous, which is brought out in the last few lines of “Mother’s Little Helper.”
“Life’s just much too hard today”
I hear every mother say
The pursuit of happiness
Just seems a bore
And if you take more of those
You will get an overdoseNo more running for the shelter
Of a mother’s little helper
They just helped you on your way
Through your busy, dying day
There are a variety of skillful ways to deal in a healthy manner with anxiety and its sister experiences, depression and melancholy. There are ways to make friends with these experiences.
Meditating once or twice a day provides an opportunity to spend time addressing concerns with little distractions. Although as we enter into meditation, we don’t do so with the intent to address concerns, they naturally bubble up from the relatively peaceful state, and our minds spend time working through our various concerns in a natural healthy manner before we become overwhelmed. Taking a walk, particularly in a place filled with nature, journal writing about concerns, and speaking to a counselor are other healthy examples.Jeff
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Some people will enjoy reading this blog by beginning with the first post and then moving forward to the next more recent one; then to the next one; and so on. This permits readers to catch up on some ideas that were presented earlier and to move through all of the ideas in a systematic fashion to develop their emotional intelligence. To begin at the very first post you can click HERE.









Welcome to “From Insults to Respect.” Regular readers know that I have some serious objections to how mental health service providers treat those seeking their services. As things stand now, unless you can afford to completely pay for such services without any insurance coverage, to access services you are very likely to be required to be labelled as having a mental disorder.
The following year, Dr Szasz published a best selling book by the same name. Some loved it while others writhed in anger. One reviewer, for example, gave it five stars out of five, and wrote:
Here is my curse on you, Thomas: May you suffer ten minutes of acute clinical depression. Ten minutes in that “over-heated room”, that “bell-jar”, that “bed of nails” which we sufferers know oh too well.
I was initially puzzled about the anger that appears to come from many who genuinely believe, and demand others believe as well, that without any doubt mental illness is an illness like any other illness. My puzzlement stemmed from my experience that oftentimes when someone proposes a different way to describe something, it doesn’t create great uproars. The proposal is either met with feelings that the new way to describe something is either helpful, or not.
William James, in his book, Pragmatism, tells us the following story.
This human witness tries to get sight of the squirrel by moving rapidly round the tree, but no matter how fast he goes, the squirrel moves as fast in the opposite direction, and always keeps the tree between himself and the man, so that never a glimpse of him is caught. (p. 43)
“Which party is right,” I said, “depends on what you practically mean by ‘going round’ the squirrel. If you mean passing from north of him to the east, then to the south, then to the west, and then to the north again, obviously the man does go round him, for he occupies these successive positions. But if on the contrary you mean being first in front of him, then on the right of him, then behind him, then on his left, and finally in front again, it is quite obvious that the man fails to go round him, for by the compensating movement the squirrel makes, he keeps his belly turned towards the man all the time, and his back turned away. (p. 44)
Once the process of comparing and contrasting two or more descriptive approaches gets underway, it can lead to an understanding of just how vague some of the descriptions were, and they can be abandoned for more precise descriptions. Of course, the new description may also be so terribly vague as well, and nothing positive occurs. In such cases, a little time was wasted, and people get on with their lives without furious reactions.
Let me begin here by asking you to note that in the squirrel anecdote, those who discussed whether or not the squirrel went around the tree were not going to lose their job, money, freedom, or any other highly significant valued thing depending on who ended up being proved correct. Once everyone declared their positions, each might have had a little sense of prestige that might be derived if they could convince others that they came up with the most respected answer. But for people who like to discuss issues, learning from the discussion is typically the most important reward for them, and they can well handle their emotions that come from having taken a position that ends up being faulty.
The pharmaceutical companies make billions of dollars convincing people that their experiences are illnesses like any other illnesses. Thus, they claim that taking a pill to manage their illness is not any different than taking insulin for diabetes. Psychiatrists and other doctors who prescribe these drugs have an enormous financial interest in keeping this position unchallenged.
The facts are that there are numerous examples of people who could have easily been classified as having a mental illness who come to a state of enormous improvement either through a religious experience, a philosophy such as Buddhism, a delightful romantic love, an exciting new job, a support group such as AA, counseling, etc., You don’t see diabetes being “cured” by changes in relationships, work settings, religious beliefs, and thinking patterns. The fear of those invested in pharmaceutical company profits and the prescribing of their pills leads to great resistance to any descriptive changes that are not in line with the illness approach.
The second consequence that I think people fear is that people who now have access to mental health services might lose them if people stop thinking that the patterns now viewed as real illnesses are really not illnesses. Dr. Szasz’s “problems in living” alternative and my “mental health concerns” approach, they fear, will trivialize these experiences.
Some argue that if everyone could go to a mental health professional merely to have their concerns addressed, then the system would soon be overloaded with clients, and insurance policy costs would soar. Because insurance companies only cover people with more serious conditions known as mental disorders, so the argument goes, this limits the number of people who can get to see a mental health professional. However, I believe that third-party-payer executives would readily come to understand, with a little explaining, that mental health service providers now using the current mental illness approach do not turn anyone away who has mental health insurance coverage and comes to their office expressing what my approach refers to as a mental health concern. Professionals are in the business of increasing their clients. The current relevant definitions are so vague that with little imagination, anyone can be “diagnosed” as having 
Similarly, people who seriously hurt others while drinking alcohol or in some furious fit might be blamed for their actions. Thinking that they have an illness, somehow makes them blameless.
This process involves learning that there is a dramatic difference between taking some responsibility for what has occurred and blaming oneself for what has occurred. Blame suggest that you should be punished for your actions. Taking some responsibility for your actions allows one to realize that there may indeed be some very strong conditions that are out of your control regardless of whether or not you have an illness. Blaming yourself for these is not helpful, but allowing yourself to experience deeply the dissatisfied feelings about whatever control you do have can spur you to make valued changes.
Okay, so those are the three feared consequences that I have come to believe ignite anger whenever there is a discussion about conceptualizing the set of concerns now called mental illnesses. In my view, “mental health concerns” are a more apt way to conceptualize these concerns than “illnesses.” However, I fully support that for those who prefer the illness approach, that they be free to access services using that model. At the same time, I believe that ending the monopoly of the illness approach could very well stir up some valuable competition that will improve services for all.














Third party payer systems have a form that must be filled out whenever someone seeks mental health services under their plan. This form has a little box that currently says, “Diagnosis.” In that box, mental health professionals are required to fill in the DSM code that corresponds to their so-called diagnosis of the person seeking services.








































