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Insults Amongst Friends: Why We Do It

A group of my male friends and I get together about once a month to play a little poker. Because my wife and I did some traveling last winter, I happened to miss a couple of these fun events. Upon my return, I was notified of when the next poker night would occur. As I arrived, one of my buddies, noticing my entrance, cried out,…

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On Brooklyn Wisdom for Responding to Insults

When his father lost his job because of a serious illness, John qualified for a free lunch pass at school.  The first time John showed the cashier at the school’s lunch line his pass, Fred, a husky boy standing behind John, started to laugh and cry out to others, “Hey guys, get a load of this! John has a free lunch pass. What’s the matter, John,…

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Insults Amongst Friends

This coming Wednesday I’m going to be a guest on the “Anger 911″ radio show. The host of the show, Janet Pfeiffer, is an expert on anger and a TV personality, appearing on such networks as “Fox News,” “CNN,”  “ABC News,” “CBS News,” “Lifetime,” and “The 700 Club.” She has also written two books, The Secret Side of Anger and The Great Truth: Shattering Life’s Most Insidious Lies That…

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Bob Dylan On Happiness

Today, once again we’re going to take a look at that treasure of an emotion, happiness.  I’ve written recently on this blog two related posts, “The Desire for Happiness” and “Hope and Happiness as Emotions.” The topic of happiness is relevant to insults and respect in a variety of ways. For example, if you tell people that your goal of life is to be happy,…

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Special Education Name Calling: Is It Time to Put a Stop to It?

Today, every child is entitled to a free appropriate public education.  If someone, such as an educator or parent, becomes concerned about a child’s progress at school, he or she is obligated to refer the child to the Committee on Special Education (CSE). The CSE is made up of a multidisciplinary team, the parent, and, if parents want to bring in other people for advice,…

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Hope and Happiness as Emotions

“What’s happening, Josh?” asks Bob. “Well, I decided to ask Julie out on a date. Oh, how I’m hoping she’ll say yes! My mind keeps going over and over what I should say when I ask her.” Two hours later. “Hi Bob.  I just got off the phone with Julie. She said yes!  We’re going out on Saturday.  I’m so happy!” “Nice!” Bob replies. “You…

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Bob Dylan On Tears

Some old ideas can readily be replaced with new ones.  For example, when I was young I thought that a whale was a huge fish. One day, my teacher explained that actually a whale is a mammal and then she explained why it helps scientists to make this type of distinction.  After that single lesson, I had no problem whatsoever remembering the major points that…

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Psychiatric Name Calling: What Do People Say About It?

In recent weeks, I have been providing a series of blog posts on psychiatric name calling (see here, here, here, and here).  In these posts, I have expressed some negative opinions about the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). The DSM provides the names for the various mental health concerns that mental health service providers are often required to use if they want to…

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Bob Dylan On Fools

Bob Dylan begins episode 47 of his show, Theme Time Radio Hour, with a beautiful instrumental version of “Why Do Fools Fall In Love.” After a few bars of this tune, it continues in the background as Bob begins to speak: James Thurber once said, “You can fool too many of the people too much of the time,” and for the next hour we’re going…

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On Being Respected

How does someone learn how to become a person people respect? Arguably, the best way to develop a deep understanding of this is through stories that depict characters that, as they mature, grow into individuals that have the set of characteristics that people highly respect.  In the Cool Steve Stories, a coming-of-age trilogy of a boy growing up in Brooklyn, I have attempted to provide…

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