Welcome to From Insults to Respect. For many of us who have endured a brutally hot summer, the approaching of autumn sure is a welcome.

This past weekend, I happened to be checking out some stuff on YouTube and came upon a wonderful version of the song, “Melancholy Mood,” sung, believe it or not, by Bob Dylan.

The amazingly prolific song writer and musical performer typically sings songs he personally penned, but in 2016 he released an album titled Fallen Angels, and “Melancholy Mood,” is one of its twelve classic American songs.

“Melancholy Mood” was written by Walter Schumann and Vick Knight back in 1939. Upon its initial release, several big band performers cut versions, including Harry James’s orchestra with a very young Frank Sinatra doing the vocals. Harry’s instrumentation of the song naturally featured his dynamic trumpet playing, but there is none of that in Dylan’s version. Instead, we get some gentle, pensive guitars. And though it’s hard to beat the rich vocal tones and wonderful phrasing of Sinatra, Dylan’s vocals, as music critic Ray Padgett describes it, “underplays the emotion perfectly.”

The song immediately caught my interest because it brought into focus the topic of melancholy, which, as regular readers well know, I have discussed on several occasions (see for example, HERE, HERE, and HERE). In these earlier posts, I contrasted my views on the differences between melancholy and depression. To me, when we experience melancholy we have made friends with this experience, recognizing it as a natural process in which life hasn’t deserted us forever, and there may be some epiphanies in the mire.

As Dylan’s fellow musician and song writer, Joni Mitchell, describes melancholy in her beautiful song, “Hijira.”

”There is comfort in melancholy where there is no need to explain, it’s just as natural as the weather in this moody sky today.”

Similarly, in an article titled “The Case for Melancholy,” Ms. Laren Stover writes,

“What ever happened to experiencing the grace of melancholy, which requires reflection: a sort of mental steeping, like tea?”

From the perspective of William James’s, when we are in melancholy we are sure we will be up again just as we are sure, when elated to be down again.

“Six months, or any cycle of time, is sure to see you produce a certain amount…. The good time will come again, as it has come; and go too.”

In contrast, depression arrives periodically just as melancholy does, but it is combined with insults thrown at oneself for being depressed without questioning if the insults are valid. Some refer to this as having a double depression because not only are we feeling depressed, but we are depressed about being depressed. Words come out of the depressed person such as, “I don’t have time for this! I’m crazy, mentally ill! This is the end of the road for me!” These are more than just words; there is a furious deep belief that these words are completely true, and a sense of hopelessness is overwhelming.

So, with this as background, let’s take a look at the lyrics of “Melancholy Mood” to see how they depict the melancholy experience. The first few lines are,

Melancholy mood forever haunts me
Steals upon me in the night, forever taunts me
Oh, what a lonely soul am I, stranded high and dry
By a melancholy mood

So far, the lyrics have Dylan expressing a mood in which he will be forever going through. He is stranded high and dry, with no means to move to a better place.

It’s not clear if the word forever, as used here, means that the singer will be always in this mood, or he will forever have periods of this mood that will come and go. A recognition that this mood is something he will have to go through, but good times will come again would be more like what melancholy means to me. At this point in the song, Dylan might be depicting someone drifting into depression. And yet, he is not clearly insulting himself. Perhaps he is just putting into words the gloomy sense one feels at such times.

Let’s move on to the next stanza

Gone is every joy and inspiration
Tears are all I have to show, no consolation
All I can see is grief and gloom, till the crack of doom
Oh, melancholy mood

These words beautifully capture the melancholy moods that I experience. There is no sign of words that are insulting the singer. Even if there is, it would not automatically mean the person has fallen into depression as I define it.

To this day, because of old habits, as I fall into melancholy, I find old habits that I learned as a youngster will spring to mind, like, “I hate myself!” or “I’m such an idiot.” But when these words shoot into my consciousness, I now well recognize that they are not at all helpful in dealing with my current state, and I let them fly away, without trying to suppress the underlying feelings that accompany them. The main difference, for me, between a melancholy mood and depression is whether or not I am convinced that the words that spring to my mind are absolutely true or not. If not, then I’m in a melancholy mood. If I really am convinced that every nasty thing that comes to my mind is true, I’ve become depressed.

Another aspect of the above four lines from the song’s lyrics also worth thinking about, is the phrase, “till the crack of doom.” It suggests there will be no relief ever arriving. Such a hopeless view suggests a depression type of experience if the person saying them truly believes this. If he or she just notices these words coming into consciousness without accepting they are absolutely true, this is more consistent with melancholy.

Moving on to the next few lines, they point to a specific reason for the person grieving:

Deep in the night I search for a trace
Of a lingering kiss, a warm embrace
But love is a whimsy, as flimsy as lace
And my arms embrace an empty space

Here, the desire for romantic love is powerfully expressed. As we move on to the last four lines, along with the accompanying melancholy guitar rifts, we fall under the spell of the song’s grieving feelings.

Melancholy mood, why must you blind me
Pity me and break the chains, the chains that bind me
Won’t you release me, set me free, bring her back to me
Oh, melancholy mood

From these final words, we learn that it is not the desire for just any romantic love the singer is sharing with his audience. Rather, the words tell of someone grieving over the loss of a romantic relationship involving a particular woman. He is pleading for the mood to release him from this grief by bringing the woman he loves back to him.

The song suggests an important function of melancholy moods. We see the person depicted in the song articulating what his desire is, and spending time with his feelings. This just might lead to processing within his mind about what led to the breakup, and what might he do to reignite the shared romantic love he once had. Or, if not that, maybe the processing of the mood will lead to some thoughts of what he might do better in a future romantic relationship that will lead to a better outcome.

Well, in any case, that’s some of my little musings on a recent song I’ve been listening to. I share it in the hopes it will deepen understanding of the nature of melancholy and depression.

May you all have a colorful autumn.

My Best,
Jeff

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Some people will enjoy reading this blog by beginning with the first post and then moving forward to the next more recent one; then to the next one; and so on. This permits readers to catch up on some ideas that were presented earlier and to move through all of the ideas in a systematic fashion to develop their emotional intelligence. To begin at the very first post you can click HERE.

Welcome to From Insults to Respect.

In a recent post, I shared some advice the highly respected psychologist and philosopher William James gave to his depressed 13-year-old daughter. It was so well received, I decided to describe another example of James giving advice to another person feeling so very blue.

Unlike my previous example, which occurred when James was a mature professor and father, today’s example occurred in 1866 when James was a mere 24-year-old. But before we get to that example, we shall go back a little further, when James was 19. By doing so, we get to see an intriguing shift in his way of thinking about mental health concerns.

James’s View of the Nature of Mental Health Concerns When He Was Nineteen

James’s cousin, Minnie, two years younger than he, lost both of her parents when she was very young. She somehow appeared to recover from the severe blow, turning herself into the James family’s most enchanting and adored relative. In fact, James’s brother, the famous author, Henry James, drew two of his most appealing heroines from her image,–Minnie Theale in Wings of the Dove, and Isabel Archer in The Portrait of a Lady. Sadly, at the age of seventeen, Minnie began to display emotional patterns that raised serious concerns. James, in a letter to Minnie’s sister, explains his understanding of the cause. “…it is but an organic lesion of the gray cortical substance which forms the pia mater [innermost membrane enveloping the brain and spinal chord], which is very consoling to us all.”

On what basis does James have for this explanation of the cause of Minnie’s mental health concern? And why would viewing Minnie as having a brain lesion be consoling? The letter doesn’t answer either of these questions, but blaming the brain for mental health concerns and the belief that such blaming is consoling survives up to the present day.

In recent years, after failing to prove a brain lesion is the cause of mental health concerns, a chemical imbalance in the brain has been promoted and eagerly accepted by many as true.

For example, the most recent relevant survey I could find on the internet suggests that 67% of the general public believe it has been scientifically established that depression is caused by a serotonin chemical imbalance in the brain (see HERE). Despite this belief, a 2022 research article published in Molecular Psychiatry concludes:

…the huge research effort based on the serotonin hypothesis has not produced convincing evidence of a biochemical basis to depression. This is consistent with research on many other biological markers [21]. We suggest it is time to acknowledge that the serotonin theory of depression is not empirically substantiated.

Many believe the reason why this idea has been so promoted is that it legitimizes the lucrative marketing of psychiatric drugs. Although I think there is considerable truth to this, the eager acceptance of this notion by many members of the general public has to do with it being a consoling notion to family members who might otherwise be blamed for their offspring’s concerning behavior. With this way of thinking, it is not anything any family might have done to cause the concerning behavior; it’s some problem in the brain that is the cause.

Now, don’t misunderstand me here. I’m not at all suggesting that family members should be blamed for all such concerns. There are, undoubtedly, many possible reasons why someone begins to act in a way that raises concerns.

When James is called upon to offer some advice to a friend several years after his comment to Minnie’s sister, his notion about the cause of mental health concerns has clearly changed.

James’s Advice to His Friend

In a letter dated, June 8, 1866, James wrote to his friend, Tom W. Ward:

I have just read your letter over again, and am grieved afresh at your melancholy tone about yourself. You ask why I am quiet, while you are so restless. Partly from the original constitution of things, I suppose; partly because I am less quiet than you suppose; only I once heard a proverb about a man consuming his own smoke, and I do so particularly in your presence because you, being so much more turbid, produce a reaction in me; partly because I am a few years older than you, and have not solved, but grown callous (I hear your sneer) to, many of the problems that now torture you. The chief reason is the original constitution of things, which generated me with fewer sympathies and wants than you, and also perhaps with a certain tranquil confidence in the right order of the Whole, which makes me indifferent in some circumstances where you fret. Yours the nobler, mine the happier part! I think, too, that much of your uneasiness comes from that to which you allude in your letter–your oscillatoriness, and your regarding each oscillation as something final as long as it lasts. There is nothing more certain than that every man’s life is a line that continuously oscillates on every side of its direction; and if you would be more confident that any state of tension you may at any time find yourself in will inevitably relieve itself, sooner or later, you would spare yourself much anxiety. I myself have felt in the last six months more certain that each man’s constitution limits him to a certain amount of emotion and action, and that if he insists on going under a higher pressure than normal for three months, for instance, he will pay for it by passing the next three months below par. So the best way is to keep moving steadily and regularly, as your mind becomes thus deliciously appeased (as you imagine mine to be; ah! Tom, what damn fools we are!). If you feel below par now, don’t think your life is deserting you forever. You are just as sure to be up again as you are, when elated, sure to be down again. Six months, or any cycle of time, is sure to see you produce a certain amount, and your fretful anxiety when in a stagnant mood is frivolous. The good time will come again, as it has come; and go too. I think we ought to be independent of our moods, look on them as external, for they come to us unbidden, and feel if possible neither elated nor depressed, but keep our eyes upon our work and, if we have done the best we could in that given condition, be satisfied.

James goes on a bit more in his letter to encourage Tom to seek to harmonize his life to nature’s will and to develop patience, equanimity, humbleness, and kindness. These attributes, he says “would do your heart good.”

As the letter draws to a close, James writes,

I will now, my dear old Tom, stop my crudities. Although these notions and others have of late led me to a pretty practical contentment, I cannot help feeling as if I were insulting Heaven by offering them about as if they had an absolute worth. Still, as I am willing to take them all back whenever it seems right, you will excuse my apparent conceit. Besides, they may suggest some practical point of view to you…..

I am anxiously waiting your arrival on Class Day when we shall, I trust, patch up the Kosmos satisfactorily and rescue it from its present fragmentary condition.

My Take On James’s Letter

At age 19, James appeared to accept that his cousin Minnie’s troubling emotional behavior pattern is caused by a brain lesion and this notion is somehow consoling. There is no thoughts expressed that perhaps the trauma of losing both of her parents might be playing a part. No wondering if some new disturbing event might have occurred that family members are unaware. A brain lesion theory does provide a simple explanation.

At age 26, when James tries to come up with an explanation for Tom’s emotional concern, the brain lesion notion doesn’t come up at all. Instead, James begins by expressing some empathy for his friend by writing to Tom,”I have just read your letter over again, and am grieved afresh at your melancholy tone about yourself.” I like this. If someone you care about is going through some hard experience, expressing some empathy is a wonderful, humane, and kind thing to do.

Then, James responds to Tom’s question about why he is so “restless” in contrast to James. Perhaps it has to do with a difference in their constitution, James theorizes. But then James suggests that he actually might not really be less restless, he just doesn’t share this with others, preferring to consume his own smoke. In actuality, anyone familiar with James’s biography well knows he suffered greatly from periods of depression. (See HERE for a discussion of James’s bouts with depression and how he came to overcome them).

James goes on in his letter to point to the possibility that Tom might have gone through a period of great pressure and, if so, naturally he would need some time to recover. The recovery process could be experienced as melancholy. He also suggests that certain thought patterns of Tom’s, if changed, might be beneficial.

James concludes by suggesting to Tom that all of what he had written could be wrong, but nevertheless, they may suggest some practical point of view. In providing this post to my readers, I, too, suggest that perhaps James’s advice might be worth considering if either you or someone you care about is struggling with melancholy experiences.

My Best,
Jeff