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Killing People Because They Criticized Your Muslim Faith: Is It A Sign of Immaturity?

By Dr Jeffrey Rubin

paris-rally-large-169Anyone who follows the news, has heard about the most recent terrorist act in France. This post, however looks at what occurred earlier this year against those who worked for the French satirical magazine Charlie Hebdo.  The magazine had published articles and cartoons that criticize those who believe that the proper response to people making fun of a group’s religious beliefs is to kill them.  Although the magazine writers had poked fun at all of the major religions, it was individuals who viewed themselves as followers of the Muslim faith that actually carried out these murders.

Before I go any further, I hasten to point out that Muslim statesmen, clerics and intellectuals have condemned these awful acts.  Moreover, the vast majority of those who view themselves as Muslims are not going around murdering anyone, let alone people who voice criticism of their faith. That said, we still have laid before us on the front pages of every media outlet this particular event. I therefore am personally moved to spend some time today throwing around some relevant ideas.  Anything that I do say today in no way is meant to imply that I think Muslims, in general, are more violent-prone or immature than other people.

Violence in Response to Criticism

Regular followers of this blog well know that I have put together a tentative model of different levels of maturity for responding to criticism.  There are 5 levels.  Level one is viewed as the most immature set of responses.  Each higher level is viewed as more mature.

If you will, take a look below at the five levels of maturity and see what level of maturity best describes the actions of those who murdered the Charlie Hebdo magazine workers?

  1. This level requires displaying one or more of the following:
  • Weeps or sobs with tears or pouts unless also displaying responses consistent with either level 4 or 5.
  • Physically attacks the criticizer (regardless of whatever else is said or done)
  • Damages property (regardless of what else is said or done)

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  1. This level requires displaying one or more of the following:
  • Insults the criticizer (either with words, hand gestures, the sticking out of a tongue, the rolling of the eyes, or smirks)
  • Glares at the criticizer
  • Threatens the criticizer
  • Punches, kicks, or throws an object without physically hurting someone or damaging anything
  • Criticizes the criticizer without first fully addressing the original criticism.

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Level 2-4

 

 

 

 

                             

  1. This level requires displaying one or both of the following:
  • Displays defensiveness without directly insulting the criticizer (raising voice’s volume or pitch)
  • Displays a lack of interest either by verbally indicating this, or with nonverbal cues, or complete silence.

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  1. Individuals at this level listen to the criticizer in a supportive, warm, friendly style, and then make it clear that they fully understand what was said.  Moreover, they put the criticizer at ease by making statements that indicate that the wise learn from criticism.  Some time is spent on showing that they are thinking about the criticism.  Level 4If, after thinking about the criticism the criticism is deemed to be correct, they make a statement frankly indicating, “I can see your ideas have merit, and I intend to use them in the future.”  If they are not sure if they agree, they make a statement indicating that they are very interested in what was said, plan to think a little more about this over the next few days and then they will be ready to discuss this further. If, after thinking about the criticism, the criticism is deemed to be incorrect, a statement is made designed to disagree without being disagreeable.  More specifically, a sense of humor, some listening in a caring way and a few smiles help to traverse rough terrain.  As the episode winds down, the criticizer is encouraged to feel comfortable communicating suggestions in the future.

 

  1. In addition to actions consistent with level 4, people acting in a manner consistent with level 5 seek ways to use, whenever they disagree with the criticism, a technique known as steering in the direction the criticizer would prefer to go. Level-5That is, rather than just disagreeing without being disagreeable, the criticized person seeks to find a new choice of action that creatively utilizes something suggested from the criticism. Steering cannot be incorporated into all situations, but it is an additional goal of the most mature individuals.

 

Okay, so now that you looked over the five levels of maturity for responding to criticism, which level do you think best matches those who slaughtered the group of individuals who worked for the French satirical magazine Charlie Hebdo?

My Response

As I looked over the levels, the task was easy.  As far as I’m concerned, level 1 is clearly the best match.

Now some might say, why bother to put the actions of those who did the killing in a developmental framework?  For many, just calling them vile names more than suffices.

Well, one reason is that calling someone vile names doesn’t automatically point one to a description of what would be a more mature response, as a developmental model does. Additionally, if you want to talk the language of many experts in human behavior, getting away from the vile name calling fits in with their zeitgeist.

Mustafa Akyol

Mustafa Akyol

Consider Mustafa Akyol, author of Islam Without Extremes: A Muslim Case for Liberty and the writer of yesterday’s New York Times Op-Ed titled “Islam’s Problem With Blasphemy.”  First, Mr. Akyol points out that,

The only source in Islamic law that all Muslims accept indisputably is the Quran. And, conspicuously, the Quran decrees no earthly punishment for blasphemy — or for apostasy (abandonment or renunciation of the faith), a related concept. Nor, for that matter, does the Quran command stoning, female circumcision or a ban on fine arts. 

Mr. Akyol explains that religious nationalism is guided by religious law — Shariah — which was developed over 100 of years after the Quran, and it is there that we find clauses about punishing blasphemy as a deadly sin. While Shariah is believed by many Muslims to be rooted in the divine, according to Mr. Akyol, the overwhelming majority of its injunctions are man-made, partly reflecting the values and needs of the seventh to 12th centuries — when no part of the world was liberal, and other religions, such as Christianity, also considered blasphemy a capital crime.

In contrast to Shariah law about blasphemy, the Quran tells its followers: “God has told you in the Book that when you hear God’s revelations disbelieved in and mocked at, do not sit with them until they enter into some other discourse; surely then you would be like them.”

Mr. Akyol concludes his Op-Ed piece with the following:

Just “do not sit with them” — that is the response the Quran suggests for mockery. Not violence. Not even censorship.

Wise Muslim religious leaders from the entire world would do Islam a great favor if they preached and reiterated such a nonviolent and nonoppressive stance in the face of insults against Islam. That sort of instruction could also help their more intolerant coreligionists understand that rage is a sign of nothing but immaturity. The power of any faith comes not from its coercion of critics and dissenters. It comes from the moral integrity and the intellectual strength of its believers.

Notice Mr. Akyol’s last paragraph refers to immaturity, and he lays out what he views as a more mature, wiser path.  That is the type of model that I, myself, am striving to emulate.

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Some people will enjoy reading this blog by beginning with the first post and then moving forward to the next more recent one; then to the next one; and so on.  This permits readers to catch up on some ideas that were presented earlier and to move through all of the ideas in a systematic fashion to develop their emotional intelligence.  To begin at the very first post you can click HERE.

 

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About the Author

Jeffrey Rubin grew up in Brooklyn and received his PhD from the University of Minnesota. In his earlier life, he worked in clinical settings, schools, and a juvenile correctional facility. More recently, he authored three novels, A Hero Grows in Brooklyn, Fights in the Streets, Tears in the Sand, and Love, Sex, and Respect (information about these novels can be found at http://www.frominsultstorespect.com/novels/). Currently, he writes a blog titled “From Insults to Respect” that features suggestions for working through conflict, dealing with anger, and supporting respectful relationships.

6 Comments

  1. Amanda says:

    What about free speech for the Muslims and non-Muslims that can not bring awareness to the rest of the world about the horrible atrocities inflicted on the Palestinians by the hands of Israel. 17 journalists – 17! were murdered last year for their free speech. Where are the pages and pages of photos depicting the innocent children massacred in Gaza? Why is the Dr. who spoke out against what he saw, now banned from entering the country? What about the cartoonist fired from Charlie Hebdo over his cartoon, that was never published – making a joke about the Prime Minister’s son converting to Islam. I’m sick too death of Jewish people thinking they can say and do what they like and moan anti-semitism when they are criticized for their monstrous behaviour. NOT ANY MORE! I came to this page because I had noticed this PROPAGANDA on a FB page about peace.

  2. Amanda says:

    What about free speech for the Muslims and non-Muslims that can not bring awareness to the rest of the world about the horrible atrocities inflicted on the Palestinians by the hands of Israel. 17 journalists – 17! were murdered last year for their free speech. Where are the pages and pages of photos depicting the innocent children massacred in Gaza? Why is the Dr. who spoke out against what he saw, now banned from entering the country? What about the cartoonist fired from Charlie Hebdo over his cartoon, that was never published – making a joke about the Prime Minister’s son converting to Islam. I’m sick too death of Jewish people thinking they can say and do what they like and moan anti-semitism when they are criticized for their monstrous behaviour. NOT ANY MORE! I came to this page because I had noticed this PROPAGANDA on a FB page about peace.

  3. Hi Amanda. Both of us agree that there are a great many instances of terrible injustice in this world. I readily admit that I don’t have a ready plan for how to instantly put an end to them. It is my sincere hope that by delving into certain limited issues, followed by a free discussion, some ideas of value may surface.

    You wrote, in part, “What about free speech for the Muslims and non-Muslims that can not bring awareness to the rest of the world about the horrible atrocities inflicted on the Palestinians by the hands of Israel.” I do take issue with this comment. I have heard on many occasions in the American press and in movies depicting the Israeli-Palistinian conflict that horrible acts have occurred by both sides. I have seen in the press pages and pages of photos depicting the innocent children massacred in Gaza? This information is readily available in America, and any place in the world that has open access to the internet. In my opinion, despite the fact that word is getting out about these horrible acts, no one has come up with a lasting plan that both sides are willing to support. I find myself often grieving over the lack of peace in that area of the world. I wish I had a solution, but I don’t.

  4. Hi Amanda. Both of us agree that there are a great many instances of terrible injustice in this world. I readily admit that I don’t have a ready plan for how to instantly put an end to them. It is my sincere hope that by delving into certain limited issues, followed by a free discussion, some ideas of value may surface.

    You wrote, in part, “What about free speech for the Muslims and non-Muslims that can not bring awareness to the rest of the world about the horrible atrocities inflicted on the Palestinians by the hands of Israel.” I do take issue with this comment. I have heard on many occasions in the American press and in movies depicting the Israeli-Palistinian conflict that horrible acts have occurred by both sides. I have seen in the press pages and pages of photos depicting the innocent children massacred in Gaza? This information is readily available in America, and any place in the world that has open access to the internet. In my opinion, despite the fact that word is getting out about these horrible acts, no one has come up with a lasting plan that both sides are willing to support. I find myself often grieving over the lack of peace in that area of the world. I wish I had a solution, but I don’t.

  5. rickwinter says:

    Patience and hard work is the solution. This may take 1000 years and it should continue with us. I believe that it is appropriate that today is Martin Luther King Day for this discussion. We must each continue to work for justice in the world for all peoples. One of the things that Dr. Rubin’s post, Mustafa Akyol’s article, and Amanda bring up is moral integrity. I personally would like to explore this further. Does any one know of a rubric that students can explore this in a denominationally unifying way?

  6. rickwinter says:

    Patience and hard work is the solution. This may take 1000 years and it should continue with us. I believe that it is appropriate that today is Martin Luther King Day for this discussion. We must each continue to work for justice in the world for all peoples. One of the things that Dr. Rubin’s post, Mustafa Akyol’s article, and Amanda bring up is moral integrity. I personally would like to explore this further. Does any one know of a rubric that students can explore this in a denominationally unifying way?

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